It's no news that by the time you get to SS (senior secondary) 1, you start feeling like an adult even if they still treat you like a child at home, at school you are probably the leader of one big clique in school, you have the attention of every guy at school. life is super cool until your loyal clique members start becoming evil and being disloyal, the heartbreak is worse than even the one that the guys dish out, you know those little tricks you and your girlfriends played then, sneaking up on the guys blah blah blah and chuckling unnecessary, *well I remember my secondary school days, I was shy die tho ask for the full story later* sharing your private jokes and all those silly name tagging you guys do. But it all stops when someone betrays the trust of the clique either by disrespecting the leader, bottom line is the phobia for girlfriends usually starts out when the one girl you trusted, that one you liked better than the rest starts becoming distant or she starts liking the same guy you were crushing on, or she starts gaining the attention of your loyal minions *smh: note to self: sue you are not well gan hhahhahahahhahahah* well that's when your mental picture of girlfriends start to shift, you start seeing girls as demons to be abhorred and avoided but my sister let me tell you something it's not true jare, some of us either don't like the entire womanhood or we just enjoy putting the guys in friend zone , we like seeing the guys suffer gan(am not saying don't have male friends oh, not that my advice will adhered to sha) but what am going to say to the women who will read this is going to be outlined beneath.
Although the stories I was hearing back then+ my own personal experiences made me think that all girls were the same but after consulting common sense and adding the words of my heavenly father I am convinced that female relationships can thrive despite a world filled with crazy girls and drama queens. Like a dear friend of mine told me recently "Abeg girls their wahala too much" *as if she is not a girl*. Well I decided to go ahead and pursue my matter oh jare, am not a female person but there are times when I crave that female companionship, and it's that strong, have I been hurt by girl to girl relationships, the answer is yes, and I learnt some critical lessons which I will share below.
Girls get jealous, envious, touchy, angry at almost anything and everything, including the person that accuses others other girls of being mean, wicked or evil whichever language you like to use, the issue with those sets of people who think in such manner is that they fail to see that person as a human being that has tendency to falter, or a person who has flaws. Everyone is unique (some can be very annoying I agree) but I make it my job not to condemn anyone first, no matter how bad that person, I duly believe that every girl has something to learn from me, no matter how little the lesson may be. Also that I should refrain from judging anyone no matter how horrible the persons character is, because in judging them I judge myself also as read in Rom 2:1-3. Instead all I need to do is pray for them and correcting them with love. Ever wondered how a person's character (good, bad and the ugly) rubs off on you? It's because the longer you stay with someone the more you form habits together, you become alike in thoughts, lifestyle and countenance, decide what you want to do today influence people with your lifestyle, let them become ashamed of their negatives due to the amount of positivity you carry around you, decide today that you won't allow all the past relationships you had that left you joyless, angry and bitter to hate your kind. Ever since I changed my mindset, I developed healthier relationships even though some are distant. Remember this; Girls are fun to be with: GBAM! There is that one girl that brings out your crazy; believe it or not it's the truth. With her it's like the whole equation is complete, nothing could ever go wrong with her around, you may be the shy type but whenever she is around it feels like you have enough energy to burn a place down (literally, I would not have anyone commit arson) but am sure you get the drift. Prov 27:17 says as iron sharpens iron, so a man sharpens the countenance of his friend. Technically if your friend isn't giving you the desired kind of love you require, increase your level of love and watch the outcome. Conquer your phobia for girlfriends; you can start with me. I still haven't forgotten all the bonds I have formed, met awesome ladies who have helped shaped my life(fashion wise especially); go ahead allow yourself love without reserve just as Christ did by laying down his life for his friends and be astonished by the outcomes.
I still look forward to all the bonds I hope to form with my awesome friends<new and old>, the bachelorettes, the weddings, the baby showers, the awesome drama I get all the time from my girlfriends, the encouragements, the tears, the laughter, the private jokes I share, and every other thing associated with having awesome girls as friends especially growing old together and seeing who still looks awesome at 80 or older with no tooth..Till then Let me know what you think, or your outcomes. Leave a comment and share your own story.
Love Suzanne.
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